Support Raising Relationships:
The Six that Matter Most

1. God
     Jesus said in John 15:5 “Apart from me you can do nothing.” We come to Him to find our calling, motivation, and vision. Ask the Lord to fill you with His Spirit, courage, and words. Ask Him to go before you to soften the hearts of your hearers. We cannot do what only God can do, but He will not do what He has asked us to do. So ask and believe God for big things. You can honor Him by the magnitude of your requests.

2. Parents
     Do you remember how your parents responded when you told them you were going into ministry and required to raise your entire support from scratch? As children, we are required to obey our parents, but then honor them for a lifetime. If we humbly approach our parents and listen to their questions, counsel, and concerns we will likely receive their blessing and encouragement.

3. Spouse
     Both husband and wife should be in agreement when deciding to go into ministry and raising support. Praying together, getting counsel, and proceeding as a team are critical if a couple is going to be in harmony and successful in support raising—and ministry. You might be satisfied at living at 80% of your budget, but it might breed discontentment or resentment in the heart of your spouse toward you, the ministry, or even God. Getting to and staying at 100% support can take some stress out of a marriage and is a great way to say, “I love you.”

4. Children
     When I speak at Christian colleges full of missionary kids, their attitudes toward support raising are usually either incredibly positive or…negative. Don’t underestimate how your words, actions, and attitudes toward money, support raising, and ministry will directly effect your children the rest of their lives. Do you view living on support as a blessing or a necessary evil? Are you thankful to God and your supporters or a complainer? Have you raised enough to really take care of your family…or not? If you have a healthy perspective, your children probably will too.

5. Pastor
     Get counsel from your pastor as you consider full time ministry and support raising. He’s probably never been asked to join someone’s personal monthly support team. You be the first! See if he will guide you as to whom to approach in the church. Ask him to be an advocate for you to the congregation and missions committee. Keep him regularly informed of your personal and ministry progress and needs. Build a track record of credibility and faithfulness.

6. Friends
     Don’t try to do it all yourself. This is friendraising, not just fundraising. By asking your friends to pray, invest, and network you with others you’ll develop long term loyalty and ownership in you and your ministry. You’re not just looking for supporters, but team mates. If, over the course of your life and ministry, you stick with them, most all of them will stick with you!

 
 
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    Trust is the Ground in Which Relationships Grow
 
     As I read Steve’s list I was struck by the diversity of the relationships he describes. The way we relate to a spouse will be much different from the way we relate to a pastor and that will differ from how we relate to our kids. Yet there is a common thread that runs through all of these relationships—the necessity for trust. It’s much easier to think of relationships in an abstract way, rather than doing the hard work of building the trust that is so essential to healthy, growing relationships.

     One way we express our faith in God is by trusting others. But this can be one of our main stumbling blocks as we consider joining a ministry that requires support raising. Even for us who are already engaged in full time missions, building trust with others can be a major hindrance to our personal and ministry success.

     Over the years we have had ample opportunity to be tested in this area. Whether it is the temptation to inflate ministry results, gloss over struggles or failures, or neglecting to communicate at all, it seems there are always challenges. Then there are the temptations to stop trusting others. For example, when someone drops their support for no reason and with no communication, or donations are given to us as “charity” rather than an eternal investment. It’s enough to make a person throw up their hands and quit.

     On the other hand, though, is the very real treasure we have in those we’ve trusted by sharing our lives, ministries, prayer requests, joys and discouragements. In turn, they will trust us with their friendship, prayers, financial support and wisdom. If we can remember that building trust is two-way street, we can find the strength to invest in these relationships over the long haul.

     Understanding and cultivating relationships with the individuals who fall into Steve’s six categories will be a key to a healthy support team, ministry, and life! People need and want to be trusted, and we can be used by God to build those bridges.

 
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 John Ray has ministered in over 20 countries. On staff with YWAM, he helps missionaries build healthy “go-teams”, mobilizes churches for missions, and leads short-term outreaches. He and his family live in Fayetteville, AR.
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